I don’t ask for much as a parent.
Well, at least I don’t think I ask for much as a parent.
Dylan and Lexi may choose to disagree with this statement and it’s fine if they do because I AM THE PARENT and I don’t care.
Every once in awhile I ask for a minor thing to be done:
Pick up the dog poop.
Change the Sparklett’s water bottle for Nana.
Take out the trash.
Don’t forget to move the car for street sweeping and…
For God’s sake give me a bun when I ask for one.
It was Dylan who refused me the bun.
All I wanted was one bun for my chicken.
It was Matilda’s first night at our house.
She was a guest.
I had no chicken feed and thought how nice it would be to give her a lovely fresh bun.
Dylan actually snatched the bun bag from my hands.
“You can’t have a bun,” he said and I looked at his face and saw that he was totally serious. “I have exactly eight buns and exactly eight hot dogs. Do you understand?”
Oh, I understood.
Mr. Obsessive-Compulsive was refusing to give me a bun.
I couldn’t believe it.
He was lucky to be alive.
If I hadn’t grown him in my magical uterus he wouldn’t even be standing here with a bag of buns in his grubby little hands… the little shit.
I almost got in a knock-down-drag-out with him right then and there but we had company… not just Matilda… but a whole house load of guests. So, I had to let it go and I honestly planned to let it go forever until I found the bun bag in the trash can exactly one week later.
The whole bun bag.
All eight buns… moldy and in the trash can.
I looked at those buns and I felt like they were mocking me.
Dylan would pay for this injustice.
I waited until he was making his way through the house, walking with one of his little band friends, when I stopped him, pulled the bag from the trash can, and in my best motherly voice said, “What is this?”
Dylan looked at the bag as if he was unable to fathom the alien object in my hand.
“What?” he said but I could tell from his tone he knew he was busted.
“I asked you for one bun. One bun! And look,” I thrust the bag towards his face. “You didn’t even eat one. Not one! Here they sit, molding in the trash.”
“I’m gonna feed them to the ducks,” Dylan said.
This sent me over the edge.
“The ducks? The ducks!” I shouted. “You wouldn’t even give me one for my chicken!”
“Well, you fed your friends my spaghetti sauce!” He snapped, throwing out this minor counter point as if he could win an argument against me with such a weak comeback.
“How much is your rent?” I asked.
He was silent before mumbling, “It was just a bun.”
“You’re right,” I said. “Just a bun.”
We stood quietly for a moment pondering that thought before Dylan said, “We’re going out to the garage to practice now.”
I watched as he walked away wondering what he might refuse me next:
An adult diaper?
My pills and ice cream when I’m 102 and unwilling to eat anything else?
I could see now that I would have to keep my eye on this little man.
It starts with a bun and ends up with a trip to the convalescent hospital for a nice long vacation.
Oh… but he had underestimated his opponent.
My wrath would be legendary.
I would be the old woman who would pee as I walked down the supermarket aisle each time my son took me to the store.
I would be the old woman who would sit in the back seat of his mini-van and flip people off in other cars for no apparent reason.
I would be the old woman who would feed his children candy and play Grand Theft Auto with them when they turned 4.
Refuse me a bun.
We’ll just see about that.